Audrey

[barbs pug]

Today I got an email from Audrey's foster mom telling me that she received a notice on her door from the spca, of course when she called them, she was told I started it. She has threatened me with harrasment charges if I keep on causing problems for her. I talked to the director of the rescue group last week and she in turn contacted Glenda (foster mom). Glenda said that she had to defend herself with the director. I did not like the way she was talking about Audrey the one time I talked to Glenda and called her director. Now with the spca she is threatening me like I said. My thoughts initially was just to find out how Audrey was doing in her foster home. When I talked to Glenda she said that Audrey wasn't playing or eating her biscuits. When I started to feel uneasy about the home is when I contacted the spca. I don't know from this point on what will happen.

I even offered to donate some money to the rescue group if I could just get Audrey back. To make matters worse, my sister and I had a fight over Audrey today. Neither of us knew at that point what was going on with the spca and Glenda. She is agreeing with the rescue group that I have no claim to her and to stop trying to find out what is happening with her and also how she is. I just wanted to be told how she is and is settling into the foster home. I know she is not adopted yet, as on her page on the rescue site it doesn't mention that at all, and I'm sure they would take her picture off if she was.

What is everyone's thoughts on this? I can't stop the spca at this point, even if I didn't feel different. Thanks for reading all of this.

Barb

[Tinker's mom]

IMO if you want her back, go and get her, if you do not want her back, you're going to have to trust the rescue to place her.

[Uggapugg]

It seems like the rescue group helped you out when you were feeling you weren't what Audrey needed. And for that, they now have the spca at their door questioning them. I'd not be happy either, and would probably also tell you to not contact me or my group in the future; via email, phone, or otherwise.

It doesn't sound to me, through out this thread, that you've given any good reason for the spca to have been called in the first place. But you've done so anyway, and opened a can of worms that you had to know wouldn't be well received by the rescue, because you wanted info on a dog that you did/didn't/did/didn't/did/didn't want anymore.

I think, and this is just my opinion..... that you need to let it go. The rescue did you a favor. They took your dog for you. They are now financially and emotionally responsible for Audrey, who is now THEIR dog. It's time for you to let them do what they do.... find her a good, forever home. And stop causing them problems for trying to do a GOOD thing.

[lbgrrl]

I think it was a mistake calling in the SPCA on this woman. They investigate cruelty--this woman is ostensibly minding her own business, and trying to help unwanted dogs, and now she has this investigation--though she has done nothing wrong. I dont blame her for being upset with you. You had no evidence that Audrey was being mistreated, you just "didn't like the way she was talking". I guess because I used to do rescue myself, I can easily put myself into that woman's shoes. She did nothing to bring this rain of crap onto herself except not return your call. And she may have been busy, sick, working, rescuing a dog--or just forgot.

At this point, I think you should recognize that you made a mistake, learn from it and move on. When you give up an animal, you release all rights to it, including updates on how it is doing--unless you do the adoption yourself and agree to this with the new owner. Recognise too, that rescue groups generally do not love the people who dump animals on them. They usually view pretty negatively, and probably don't enjoy talking with these people. I am not saying that is you--but I know I did not look positively on people who gave up their rabbits for whatever reason, and would not have felt I owed them even five minutes of my time when I had new adoptive families to talk to or abandoned rabbits to place.

[shaynapug]

I have to agree. You'd already called them when you contacted me.

If you don't get her back, you have learned a lesson....and I"m sure that Audrey will find a good home!

IF you get real lucky...and it will take luck...you might be that home!

[newpugmomma]

Today I got an email from Audrey's foster mom telling me that she received a notice on her door from the spca, of course when she called them, she was told I started it. She has threatened me with harrasment charges if I keep on causing problems for her. I talked to the director of the rescue group last week and she in turn contacted Glenda (foster mom). Glenda said that she had to defend herself with the director. I did not like the way she was talking about Audrey the one time I talked to Glenda and called her director. Now with the spca she is threatening me like I said. My thoughts initially was just to find out how Audrey was doing in her foster home. When I talked to Glenda she said that Audrey wasn't playing or eating her biscuits. When I started to feel uneasy about the home is when I contacted the spca. I don't know from this point on what will happen.

I even offered to donate some money to the rescue group if I could just get Audrey back. To make matters worse, my sister and I had a fight over Audrey today. Neither of us knew at that point what was going on with the spca and Glenda. She is agreeing with the rescue group that I have no claim to her and to stop trying to find out what is happening with her and also how she is. I just wanted to be told how she is and is settling into the foster home. I know she is not adopted yet, as on her page on the rescue site it doesn't mention that at all, and I'm sure they would take her picture off if she was.

What is everyone's thoughts on this? I can't stop the spca at this point, even if I didn't feel different. Thanks for reading all of this.

Barb

I am sorry that all of this is happening! It is never fun looking back and wishing things happened differently. If I were you, I would step back and just let the dust settle. When we make tough decisions in life, we often do regret but that doesn't mean our decision wasn't for the best.

I think if the rescue has been offendend in any way, a nicely written email to the rescue/foster to say you are sorry for what has happened could help your situation. I do think just stepping back and letting things settle down is probably the best bet.

I hope things work out for you and for Audrey!

[Tiny's Mum]

I feel for you but it is sometimes impossible to go back. My brother passed away last November, quite suddenly. He lived alone, was happy with his life and he adored his cat, Jac. She idolised him, would sit behind him in his wheel chair with Peter sometimes almost off the seat. She fretted when he went but there was no one who could take her. I am not a cat person and we have Tiny. My daughter, who would loved to have taken Jac, has 2 cats in an aparment where no animals are allowed. I had to make the difficult decision to take Jac to the RSPCA (animal shelter and animal protection group) and hope she would be adopted. It surprised me just how emotional I became, crying all the way to shelter and while I was filling in the paperwork. A few weeks ago, I received a call from the RSPCA asking if I had given Jac her worming tablets, tick prevention etc and I had to explain that I was the one who had surrended her. It appears the woman had rung me instead of the foster Mum as my name and number were on the form. I was so pleased as I had been worrying about her and if she was being looked after. It was so reassuring to know that Jac has a good home and family to be with and that she is well cared for. I am sure that this is the case with Audrey as a pug is very easy to love. Maybe she is just taking a little time to settle.

[Cheryl7777]

I'm sorry it's hard for you to let go, but you gave her up and now you do have to let her go. You have to go on with your life and she has to be allowed to go on with hers so she can find her forever home with no baggage from a previous owner. No one wants to worry if the prior owner is going to cause problems or cling to the given up dog. If some responses seem harsh to you, I'm sorry your feelings might be hurt. But you have come to a site where we are totally devoted to our Pugs and to the breed. It's very hard for some of us to see a Pug given up for the reasons you listed. I'm sure your reasons were valid to you and I'm certainly not wanting to judge what you did. Also, there are a lot of people here who are involved in rescue and breeding and they see the ugly side of rescue all the time. That has to be very hard when all they want to do is help the little ones out there that need a home. So please understand that a lot of people are not trying to judge you for what you did, but maybe educate you so that the next time you are lucky enough to have a Pug come into your life, you are better prepared and are rewarded with the love and loyalty of one of these beautiful creatures for their lifetime. Good luck to you, but please let Audrey go now as it doesn't appear your home is her forever home. Hugs to you for the hard emotional time you are having over it. And good luck to little Audrey that she quickly find her forever home and is happy and secure for the rest of her days.

[6 Beautiful Pugs]

Most rescues make it completely up to the foster if and how much communication is given with past owners. I am very open with surrendering families and often email them pictures and updates and let them know when the dog is adopted. I have not had problems with surrendering owners who were unreasonable or changed their mind at some point, although it does happen. Some fosters have a no contact policy and the rescue supports their desires either way.

I'm sorry this has happened. I'm sorry this decision has been so hard on you. Calling the SPCA on the foster was probably not a great move, but you can't take it back now, so it is best to move on and cease trying to contact them. A letter of apology, if you feel appropriate, might be in order.

Know that they will take good care of her and will do their best to place her in a great home.

Take care,
Lisa