To let them cry it out, or to not let them cry it out?
+ Reply to Thread
Results 1 to 8 of 8
Like Tree22Likes
  • 3 Post By CSollers
  • 6 Post By Suri
  • 4 Post By Lu Ci and Ri Ki
  • 2 Post By Wonka & Nilla
  • 3 Post By GordonBrunoPugMom
  • 2 Post By ItsyBitsy
  • 2 Post By LilyFayre

Thread: To let them cry it out, or to not let them cry it out?

  1. #1
    ItsyBitsy is offline New to the Village
    Join Date
    Aug 2021
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    6

    Default To let them cry it out, or to not let them cry it out?

    I have a mesh kennel for Meimei and she does not like it one bit. I had gotten Meimei from the AZ humane society so we had spent a week there, and she slept in the living room in a baby pen with little issues other than a bit of crying and being woken up a couple of times during the night. Standard stuff. I had tried the same thing at the place in Canada and she lost it. It's a new place so I put her on the end of my bed in her kennel. She screamed, cried, bit at the walls, and flopped around like a fish; a bigger tantrum than a human child. I had tried comforting her outside of the kennel but she was overstimulated and biting at everything she could and HARD, not aggressively just the puppy teathing/playing so I let her cry it out in the kennel on the end of my bed. Her cries were so loud my brother who lives in the basement came to check on her at 3 am. We had a similar situation tonight but not as extreme. Googling whether you should let them cry it out just makes it worse since every site basically contradicts the other. Not to mention I am WEAK to her cries and I HATE hearing her cry for me (plus how can anyone resist a sad pug face?)

    The TLDR (to long don't read version)
    What is the best way to handle puppy sadness in the kennel at night that is the best for the dog emotionally in the long run? IMG_4665.jpg

  2. #2
    CSollers's Avatar
    CSollers is offline Village Sugar Daddy
    Join Date
    Dec 2010
    Location
    Abingdon, Md.
    Posts
    12,629

    Default

    As soon as she learned to let us know that she needed to go outside, Minni slept in the big bed. You just have to get up and take her out when she stirs. You may want to feed her in the kennel so she sees it as a good place.


    Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
    Chris, owned by Minni the diva, and "Sugar" Ray the ever hungry.
    Ray has since crossed the bridge but stays forever in my heart. I love you, Boo Boo. Oscar Wilde Thang has joined the family.
    DH to Ellen , DD to Lindsay and Carrie

  3. #3
    Suri's Avatar
    Suri is offline Village Secret Super-Star
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Location
    Hayes, Virginia
    Posts
    14,065

    Default

    I got my pup during covid shutdown she slept in my bed day 1, I got up during the night and took her out whenever she woke. Never an accident and the first night she let out a scream but I pet her and after a couple of weeks I just took her out once during the night. I have read on a training site if you can crate them right near you so when they cry you are to put your fingers
    In the crate to comfort the pup. They mentioned sleeping in the living room or where ever the crate is.


    Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
    Moderator
    Susan, mom to Bo, Lucy and Finn

    Honoring Sruffy, Maggie Mae, Jenny, Trooper, Kaja,Muff, and Pepper

  4. Remove Advertisements
    PugVillage.com
    Advertisements

  5. #4
    Lu Ci and Ri Ki's Avatar
    Lu Ci and Ri Ki is offline Village Ya-Ya
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Location
    United States
    Posts
    31,235

    Default

    Pugs are bred to be companions and that's mostly what they want (well, besides food). They just want to be with us. I agree with putting her crate near your side of the bed so you can reach down and comfort her and let her know you are right there.
    We never touch people so lightly that we don't leave a trace.

  6. #5
    Wonka & Nilla's Avatar
    Wonka & Nilla is offline Village Dancing Jitterpug
    Join Date
    Oct 2005
    Location
    Michigan
    Posts
    35,344

    Default

    I was also going to suggest putting the crate right next to where you sleep so you can dangle your fingers inside. For us that really helped a lot when our pugs were new to the home. If you are comfortable with having her on the bed then that's probably what SHE would prefer, but not everyone wants a dog on the bed and I totally understand that. Next best thing is to help her understand that the crate is a happy and comforting place. Make it a place she doesn't mind going to... give her a special toy at night to suckle on (if she likes that) or give her a special treat that will take a while for her to eat and she only gets it when she goes into the crate. Make the experience as positive and soothing as possible.

    And as far as letting her cry it out... that's tough! It's hard to hear them cry and to resist comforting them. Keep in mind that when you "give in" you are teaching her a lesson that if she cries long enough and hard enough, then the human will come and comfort her. By "giving in" at 30 minutes or an hour or whatever, that might cause her to get even more wild with her tantrums if you try to resist on a different night - because "it worked before, so I must just need to cry even harder!" Pugs are so smart and they really just want to be with their humans. Ideally you can keep her close enough that you can reach down and pet her through the crate, let her sniff your fingers, talk to her, but don't take her out. Hopefully she'll learn that you are right there by her and it's okay.

    Another option, if you don't want her on the bed and a crate is just causing both of you misery, would be a "co-sleeper" type of bed. These are like a crib or an elevated bed and they sit right next to your bed. The dog is right there next to you, but not actually on your bed. We used this for our boy Wonka in the last few years of his life and it really worked well for us. He was happy to be right there by us and I was able to sleep without the "little pug-furnace" crowding me, kicking me and putting out a thousand degrees of heat! I don't know how that little body could put out so much heat! Normally Wonka would be on the bed with me for an hour or two and then when hubby came to bed later he would move Wonka to the "crib." When Wonka was younger - and when we had two pugs - Wonka would be on the bed for a while and then hubby moved him to an x-pen at the foot of the bed. Our other pug, Nilla, usually stayed up late with hubby and so she went right into the x-pen when he came to bed.

    I hope you find a solution that works for you and Meimei so that everyone can get some sleep.
    Lu Ci and Ri Ki and ItsyBitsy like this.
    Village Moderator


    Mom to Miss Jelly Bean "Beanie" Licorice Pug
    Forever in our hearts:
    Miss Nilla Sassafras Pug August 17, 2002 to April 19, 2018
    And my Heart-Dog...
    Wonka the Dancing Pug, CGC, W-FD, W-TFD.
    Februrary 11, 2005 to May 10, 2020. Miss you, sweet boy!

  7. #6
    GordonBrunoPugMom's Avatar
    GordonBrunoPugMom is offline Village Royalty
    Join Date
    Oct 2017
    Location
    Ft.Knox Ky
    Posts
    6,973

    Default To let them cry it out, or to not let them cry it out?

    You have to decided where you want your pup to be. Gordon was sleeping in the kitchen with Dachshund and later with Bruno until we moved to a new house and my husband decided to have the boys with us at night. Henry started in a soft kennel/bed next to my bed and now sleep with us. Bruno actually some days decided to go back to dog bed.

    Every situation is different and dogs have different temperaments and personalities . You will figure out what works best for you , you family and dog.

    My Henry is kinda little and I always worry he falls of the bed so he has to be in the middle fo the bed .


    Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk Pro

  8. #7
    ItsyBitsy is offline New to the Village
    Join Date
    Aug 2021
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    6

    Default

    Thank you! I will look at co-sleeper types of beds for when she is this little to avoid her falling off the bed or me squishing her in my sleep. (plus they look so stinking cute haha)

  9. #8
    LilyFayre's Avatar
    LilyFayre is offline Village Tea Pug
    Join Date
    Jun 2015
    Location
    Hertfordshire, UK
    Posts
    10,162

    Default

    Hi - I just wanted to reiterate that when mine cried in the night it was because they needed a bathroom trip and went straight back to sleep in their cat carrier beside me on the bed after they’d relieved themselves. Mine both slept in the carrier until they were big enough to safely get up and down off the bed

    Good luck!
    Suzie
    Bree, Xanthe and Darwin

+ Reply to Thread

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts